My high school sweetheart and husband of 29 years passed away from a long battle with cancer. It felt like my heart was ripped out of my chest as I realized I would have to continue on in life without him. I was blessed with such a wonderful man to live the life God had for us. The pain of loneliness was too much, so I prayerfully searched for the man of God He would have for me to share the last part of life together. As I prayed, God showed me to ask Him one by one which man He had set aside for me, much like Samuel’s search for the King of Israel in 1 Samuel 16. Then I met my Boaz, a brother in Christ who would love me as Christ loved the church, even in the shadow of my first love.
Losing the love of your life after a terminal illness has its own set of issues, along with the particulars of each person’s life station and situation. The spouse of someone so ill often suffers alone because he or she must be strong for this loved one. When a husband or wife dies, emptiness haunts every aspect of daily life for the one left behind. Some who have lost a spouse find the loneliness is overwhelming. Should I date again? Why do I feel like I am “cheating on” my sweetheart? So many difficult decisions face learning how to be who God created him or her to be as an individual.
Remarriage has its own nuances. As iron sharpens iron, so the sparks may fly! Oh, my! But the new love God brings to the one left behind is a new blessing, to become one, is a process. Prayerfully. Carefully. Lovingly.